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I F57 have been married to my husband M61 for over 30 years. We have three adult children.
Overall, we’ve had a good marriage, and he has been a good father. He’s always been very outgoing and talkative, but also sensitive to criticism. Over the past ~5 years, he’s developed increasing anger toward our son M30.
A couple of weeks ago, during a family dinner, my husband and son got into a heated argument over a political issue. After my son left, my husband sent him several texts that were extremely cruel and personal (e.g., calling him the worst person he’s ever met, he’s sorry his kids have him for their father). I was shocked — I didn’t realize he had that level of anger.
My son now says he will never speak to him again and is preventing his dad’s access to our grandchildren. I understand why.
My husband has said he “shouldn’t have said those things,” but he always follows it with explanations about how our son provoked him. He believes his reaction was understandable. I feel strongly that, as the parent, it was his responsibility to control himself — especially since the texts were written after the argument, not said in the heat of the moment.
This has changed how I see him. I feel a loss of respect, and right now I don’t want physical closeness or much interaction. We are mostly coexisting quietly.
He continues to bring it up and defend himself, and I don’t want to keep having the same argument.
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