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My wife and I are both in our late 30s and have been married for about 18 years. We had our kids pretty young and basically spent the last decade and a half pouring everything into being parents.
Every weekend was sports tournaments or school events and we were always running around making sure they had what they needed. Our youngest just left for college a few months back and now its just the two of us rattling around this house. T
he routine has become pretty mechanical – we get up say good morning head to work maybe exchange a couple texts during the day then come home eat dinner watch some show and go to bed. Rinse and repeat.
I keep thinking back to when we first got together and how different everything felt. We used to stay up all night just talking or fooling around and every day felt like an adventure. Now I look at her across the dinner table and sometimes it feels like we’re just roommates who happen to share a mortgage.
The thing is shes not doing anything wrong. Shes always been dependable and supportive and probably handles stress better than anyone I know. I respect her a lot and losing her would destroy me because we’ve been through so much together.
But I cant shake this feeling that somewhere along the way we stopped being a couple and just became a parenting team. Maybe this is just what happens after being together this long and I need to accept that the honeymoon phase is over.
Part of me wonders if we even know how to be together without the kids as a buffer anymore. I dont want to blow up something we spent years building but I also dont want to spend the next 20 years feeling disconnected.
Not sure if this is normal empty nest stuff or if we actually have a problem that needs fixing.
tl dr Empty house has me realizing my wife and I might have lost our connection somewhere along the way
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