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TLDR: My friend said she was going to go out to the clubs with me but then decided not to and went out with a guy I hate instead

My (21 F) friend ditched me for a guy she has been hanging out with. So me and my friend (22 F) have been friends for coming up on a year. We got pretty close pretty fast because we both work together and also live in the same residence building.

She moved schools to mine when I was starting my second year. There is a guy in my program who is pretty well known but not for good reasons. He’s known for being very disruptive, has been violent and has a temper, but he just kinda knows everyone. I want to preface that I don’t think he’s a bad guy necessarily, but he has also said some homophobic things and some other things that I definitely don’t mess with.

All in all I just think he’s kinda a messed up guy who had a hard upbringing but I don’t really like him.

Anyway my friend and I were eating in the cafeteria one day and he came up to say his hello to me and I introduced them. He was very into her immediately and since then has been all over her all the time. At first she was definitely entertaining it and playing with him a bit which was funny but then they started like hanging out.

Again I thought this was weird and it kinda got on my nerves but like only in the way that it does when your friend is dating a guy you don’t like. Every time I would bring it up she would say that she doesn’t like him, they aren’t hanging out (she goes and picks him up and drives him home from the bar at 2am) stuff like that.

She also would talk about him all the time, saying how funny he is and that he does all this out of pocket stuff and she is just hanging with him because he gives her attention.

Here’s where I start to get upset. We were supposed to go out tonight with some of our friends. She texted me an hour before saying she didn’t want to go out because she didn’t want to go pick people up and drive them to the pre game (very valid) and now she wasn’t in the mood.

I decided to skip it as well so she wouldn’t miss out too much and I was also on the fence about going out and I felt bad that she felt like people were taking advantage of her. Half an hour later I am on Snapchat and I see that she is at his house. Now I feel like she ditched me to go hang out with this guy who sucks so bad.

I don’t know if it’s a big deal or not but it kinda hurt my feelings especially because of how bad I felt about my friends being inconsiderate of her and her time. Am I upset over nothing? Am I being too much?