Private drop just for you 👀 “Don’t ignore this…”👀👆

I’m F23 and I’ve been dating this guy (M27) for about 8 months. He took me to a place I’d been wanting to go, which I really appreciated, and he spent a decent amount on the date. But for most of the time, he was on his phone watching a basketball game and barely engaging with me. I was grateful, but I still left feeling kind of disappointed and ignored.

What really bothered me happened afterward when we went to Sephora. I was picking up some eye patches I’ve been wanting to try and planned to just get one box, but he encouraged me to get a second one on him. I even joked about him trying them with me, and he said he didn’t need them because he “looks too good.” I laughed it off.

Then the sales associate mentioned they work really well and joked that he might end up using them too. We all laughed, but then he repeated his comment about “looking too good” and added that I actually need them. It got awkward, and even the sales associate said that wasn’t okay.

Instead of dropping it, he doubled down and went on for a couple of minutes about how I don’t get enough sleep and don’t go to bed when I should or when he tells me to. I felt really embarrassed in that moment. I had a bit of an attitude after, and he did apologize, but it still bothered me for the rest of the day.

I didn’t want to seem ungrateful since he spent money on me, and part of me feels like I might be overreacting. But at the same time, it felt belittling and I can’t really shake it. Now I’m conflicted about whether I should address it more seriously or just leave it alone and see if it happens again.

TL;DR: Boyfriend ignored me during a date, then made comments about my appearance and sleep habits in public that embarrassed me. He apologized, but I’m still bothered and unsure how to address it.

My (25F) boyfriend (28M) was driving us to the airport and got us into an accident before our trip. He has a history of driving like a maniac, switch in and out of lanes quickly, and speeding. He hit the car in the next lane while trying to quickly change into that lane. I’ve always told him to not do that when I’m in the car with him because it doesn’t make me feel safe. He drove that same exact way on our way to the airport and got us into an accident. I feel like that shows that he doesn’t care about my safety.

I plan on breaking up with him during our couples therapy session but not sure if it’s a good idea. Is breaking up during a couples therapy session an appropriate way to handle this situation, and what are the pros and cons?

The reason I wanted to do it during therapy is because when I do bring up breaking up, he acts like a kid that never learned how to process his emotions. He shuts down, puts his head down and gets all quiet. Then he starts freaking out and it makes me feel bad. I just thought being around a therapist could help him process his emotions better? My first thought was for me do to it before our therapy session.