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I really need to vent because this has been building up inside me.
My sister-in-law recently got pregnant. She had a love marriage that my in-laws were strongly against. The man she married is currently unemployed and basically had nothing when they married. They only accepted the marriage after a lot of pressure from her.
Now she’s pregnant and staying at my in-laws’ house.
What hurts me is the difference in how she’s being treated compared to how I was treated when I was pregnant. When I was pregnant, I was expected to do household work, help around the house, and manage everything. There wasn’t much care or rest for me. Even now I have a 1-year-old to take care of, and I’m still expected to actively help with housework.
Meanwhile my SIL mostly sleeps, uses her phone, eats, and repeats. Meals are literally brought to her in bed sometimes. Everyone treats her with so much care and attention.
I’m not angry that a pregnant woman is being cared for. Of course she should be. Pregnancy is hard and women deserve support.
What hurts is that I didn’t receive the same kindness when I was in the exact same position. Instead, I was expected to keep functioning like nothing had changed.
Now watching this difference every day makes me feel really hurt and resentful. I feel guilty for feeling this way, but I can’t ignore it. I’m exhausted raising a one-year-old and still trying to keep up with expectations in the house while watching someone else get the rest and care I wish I had gotten.
Has anyone else experienced this kind of double standard with in-laws? How do you deal with the resentment without letting it destroy your peace? TDLR – i feel alone and resentful toward everyone in the house i want to escape
