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Relationships are vital to our health and happiness. With that said, our relationships with ourselves are no less important than our relationships with others. Taking care of ourselves positions us to be better partners and spouses.
Personal space
Autonomy is necessary for personal growth. It’s great to have time and space to ourselves. There are moments in which we all know that ignoring the need to recharge would be a terrible idea!.
Moreover, taking time to do your “own thing” once in a while can actually benefit you and make you appreciate your relationships more. If you work or play apart for a bit, you have a chance to miss each other and feel extra glad to reunite. (Added bonus: something new to talk about!)
On the other hand, too much space can be destructive and a sign of underlying problems. Whether space is created out of fear of losing yourself or each other, out of mistrust or insecurity about your relationship, self-isolation rarely ends well, and the barriers you build to protect yourselves usually end up hurting everyone involved.
The difference between happy and unhappy couples
The fear that you can’t provide your partner with all that you “should” is another common source of barrier-building. Rifts are made out of guilt and resentment, which in turn spring forth from misconception.
Remember: No one can provide their partner with everything. A single person can’t fulfill another’s every need.
